June 3, 2013
According to a recent Gallup poll, cheating on your spouse is considered the most morally wrong thing a person can do. 91 percent of Americans agree that it is always morally wrong to have an affair. This is quite the change from 40 years ago, when similar studies reflected that only approximately half of Americans thought having an affair was always wrong.
Cheating is considered more morally wrong than human cloning, suicide, and polygamy. Even with a growing acceptance of divorce, pre-marital sex, and having children out of wedlock demonstrated by this same poll, Americans are shifting towards a contemporary attitude of being less accepting of adultery driven by a changed marriage ideal. Nowadays, there are so many individuals who care about who is allowed to get married and what constitutes a marriage. This marriage equality issue has become the defining civil rights cause of our era.
Political scientist John Sides notes in a recent detailed analysis of Americans’ changing attitudes towards adultery, “Americans, and especially better educated Americans, have become less accepting of adultery with the passage of time.” Society is far more accepting of ending an unhappy marriage than adultery.
The same Gallup poll also found a rising acceptance of many other non-traditional, consensual sexual relationships. It seems that the new ethical consensus is that you can do whatever you like as long as you’re not hurting anyone and you’re being open and honest.
Cheating has become our most despised sin. Dishonesty is a vice that all societies and religions can agree is immoral.
When we take marriage vows (I speak from a Christian standpoint), we pledge a lifetime of faithfulness to our partners, for better, for worse. Infidelity has always been taboo but the fact that it is viewed even more immoral today than in the past, shows you how our society’s view of marriage is being completely redefined. People are waiting longer and longer to get married; waiting until they have sowed all of their proverbial oats and are more established in life to start a union- a lifetime partnership with someone. Although, if you believe this will inoculate you from infidelity, evidence suggests you might be a little on the naïve side.
If you want to keep your marriage safe from infidelity, my best advice is that you must consistently and continuously make the effort to spend quality time with your spouse. If you don’t enjoy spending time with your spouse or don’t share many common interests, I strongly suggest you find something fun for you both to do together because at the end of the day, if you two don’t enjoy spending time together and aren’t willing to put in the effort to spend time together, what are you two doing together?
Like Big Sean raps in Justin Bieber’s song, the grass is greener where you water it. Make sure you water your own grass, people! It’s important!