Should I Be Worried About My Husband Hiding His Phone and Receiving Nude Pictures From Other Women?

Dear Allie,

My husband and I have been married for a little over 5 months now. He just got a full-time job working 12-hour shifts. We’ve recently had an issue of him still having feelings towards his ex, his 2 youngest children’s mother, until he soon realized he wanted to stay with me, our unborn child and our marriage. He did get his number changed and hasn’t talked to her since, but I think it’s happening again with another woman. He gets mad when I look through his phone. He’s constantly texting all day long, but keeps his messages erased. But he has nude pictures that women have sent him in his phone gallery. Should I be worried?


Yes, you should be worried. If your husband had nothing to hide, he wouldn’t be deleting all of his text messages and receiving nude pictures from other women. He is your husband and you two took vows to be faithful to each other; nude pictures of other women doesn’t sound very faithful to me.

I see this a lot with married couples; you don’t know where to draw the boundary of cheating. It is different for every relationship and you have to draw the lines of what is considered cheating and what isn’t in your marriage and also voice these boundaries to your husband. From firsthand experience, a man doesn’t get mad about you going through his phone unless he’s trying to hide something from you.

My advice to you is to sit down with your hubby and hash everything out. Communication is key to a successful relationship. Tell him exactly what you consider cheating and what is acceptable in your relationship and what isn’t. Best of luck to you and your hubby!


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