Nearly a year and a half after her divorce from NBA San Antonio Spurs star Tony Parker was finalized, Eva Longoria is finally opening up about his infidelity and split.
Last night on Lifetime’s new show, The Conversation With Amanda de Cadenet, Longoria, 37, admitted that she doesn’t carry any “baggage” from her failed three-year marriage to Parker, 29.
The Desperate Housewives star said, “I am so secure in who I am. I really am! And I’m not conceited. I just think, “Wow, okay, that’s the life you want to live.’ It wasn’t about who he chose. I mean, I had moments [where I wondered], ‘Am I not sexy enough? Am I not pretty enough? Am I not smart enough?’ But in so many of those questions, I immediately stopped and said, ‘No, don’t start doing that.’ Because you can get stuck in that cycle and you can carry on to other things.”
Longoria discovered Parker’s affair when she found hundreds of text messages to a mutual friend Erin Barry (who denied having an affair) on his cell phone. She confronted Parker after finding the messages to understand why he cheated.
“Even having the conversation, I really wanted to provide a pillow for him to say and express ‘the why.’ Because I really wanted to know why,” she explained. “‘I don’t want to judge you. I’m not going to judge you. I’m not going to be mad in this moment. I’ll be mad later.'”
Longoria stated that Parker’s infidelity “was definitely not about me” and hearing about it “didn’t make me feel better, but it helped me understand.”
“Society usually thinks there’s something wrong with the woman. ‘Oh, he cheated on her, so she must not have been sexually satisfying him. She must have been a ball and chain!’ … Why did he have to have a reason to cheat that had do with me?”
What a great example of being stronger than ever after finding out your partner had been unfaithful!