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5 Signs of an Emotional Affair

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Emotional affairs can often times be much more obvious than physical affairs.  Many times, emotional affairs lead to physical infidelity so read on for the Top Five Signs of an Emotional Affair.

Cheating isn’t just physical- emotional affairs can be equally devastating (if not more) to a marriage or relationship.  Emotional infidelity can be hard to determine because these types of affairs usually start out as a friendship.  It is important to define the boundary of when a friendship crosses the line into intimate territories that should be reserved for you and your partner, in your marriage or relationship.

Emotional affairs can be extremely detrimental to a marriage or relationship because an intimacy is formed that should be reserved for you and your partner.  Many times, these close “friendships” start out with one partner divulging secrets about their relationship or marriage to a “friend.”  Although the relationship seems harmless at first, it can ultimately be devastating to a relationship because intimate emotional needs are now being fulfilled by the “friend,” instead of your spouse or partner.

If you suspect that your partner is forming an emotional bond with someone other than you, read on for the top five signs of an emotional affair.

Sign 1: Your partner is suddenly secretive.

If you notice that your partner is trying to keep secrets from you, chances are that you will notice, especially if you two live together.  Watch out for behavioral changes like your partner suddenly stops texting when you walk in the room or takes his or her cell phone into the bathroom.  Another possible indicator of emotional infidelity is if you have always known your partner’s passwords and they are suddenly changed.  If your partner is taking steps toward privacy when he or she normally wouldn’t, this is a big red flag that an emotional affair might be happening.

Sign 2: You feel disconnected from your partner.

If your partner is getting emotional needs and attention fulfilled by someone outside of your marriage or relationship, you will probably begin to feel a sense of detachment from them.  It may be hard to pinpoint at first but if you have been feeling emotionally disconnected from your spouse or partner (& there is no other good reason for why this is happening), this can be a major red flag that an emotional affair is happening.  If your partner has stopped discussing any issues or bad days with you but doesn’t appear to be stressed (when he or she normally would), this can be a sign that he or she is getting emotional needs met outside of your relationship.

Sign 3: Your partner continuously mentions the other person.

If you are noticing that your spouse or partner is continuously mentioning or quoting the other person, this might be a sign that the friendship has crossed the friendship boundary and is evolving into an emotional affair.  If your spouse is emotionally involved with another person, they may inconspicuously bring the person up in conservations with you.  In addition, if your partner is extremely informed of more personal details about another individual, this is a sign that the friendship boundary has been crossed and an emotional affair is occurring.

Sign 4: Your partner starts putting you down or becomes more critical of you.

If you have noticed that your partner is putting you down more often or is highly critical of you (when he or she wasn’t in the past), this might be because your partner is comparing you to the fantasy of the other person.  However, this may also be because of the guilt your partner is feeling.  In addition, if you happen to criticize the object of your partner’s affection and your partner gets extremely defensive, this is also a major red flag. Your partner has built up a fantasy idea of their “friend” and they will probably not take any criticisms about their “friend” well.

Sign 5: You feel in your gut that something is wrong in your relationship or marriage.

If you feel your gut is telling you that something is wrong in your relationship or marriage, chances are that you are probably right.  Again, it can be difficult to pinpoint signs of emotional infidelity because it usually starts out as a friendship. In addition, if you have been noticing your partner is changing the way he or she dresses or is acting out of character, this can be a sign of emotional infidelity.

If you have been noticing any of these signs, it might be time to start a conversation with your partner explaining that you have been feeling disconnected from them and discuss steps on how to fix it.  It is very easy for an emotional affair to lead into a physical affair so the quicker you notice these signs, the greater the chance for you two to fix the relationship and be stronger than ever.  Keep in mind that many times, your partner is just looking to fulfill his or her emotional needs because they feel as if they can’t discuss those needs with you, therefore leading them astray.  This will not be an easy discussion to have with your partner but will hopefully give you some clarity on the situation and a solution to fix it.

XO, Allie

The Average Affair Costs $2,664

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Author: Allie

Date: 7/17/14


If you have ever considered having an affair, here is a just another BIG reason why you shouldn’t cheat on your significant other.

The average affair costs approximately $2,664.00, according to a new survey* from VoucherCloud.

On average, cheating partners spend $444.00 each month on their affair partner.  Spending was broken down into 5 categories:

  • Hotel Bills: $123.00
  • Dinner and Drinks: $162.00
  • Gifts: $54.00
  • Date Activities (for example, movie tickets): $69.00
  • Miscellaneous: $36.00

MONTHLY TOTAL = $444.00 per affair

Affairs don’t come cheap.  On average, the lifespan of an affair lasts 6 months, making the total spent on the average affair $2,664.00!

If you suspect your partner is cheating on you, a look at their spending habits might tell you much more than you would think!  Affairs are not only costly but the damage done is often permanent.

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*The survey polled 2,645 people who were 25 years or older and had been married for at least five years.  Almost a quarter of the respondents stated that they had cheated on their partners.

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How Men and Women Cover Up Cheating Differently

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Intuition is the first intangible warning sign of infidelity, but should people rely on their gut feelings alone? How can you know if you’re sensing infidelity in a relationship or simply overreacting?

Daniel Gomez is a private investigator and TV personality who has worked on the reality show Cheaters. He’s also written the book Play to Win that gives couples advice on how to deal with a cheating partner and end up winning the hand. There are a few telltale signs of cheating, he says, and they differ between men and women.

Red Flags that HE is Cheating

Gomez says that men are masters of disguise when it comes to cheating and go out of their way to hide affairs. Some signs that point to a cheating man include:

1. A dip in sex drive. When a man is interested sexually in another person, his desire for his spouse or significant other may wane.

2. Changes in appearance. A man who’s trying to impress a new love interest may spend more time at the gym, buy new clothes or spend more time worrying about his overall appearance.

3. Missing money. If there’s money in the household budget that is unaccounted for, it could point to cheating — particularly if it’s untraceable through credit or debit card records.

4. Tight grip on cell phone. A man who’s engaging in infidelity may suddenly add a lock passcode to his phone and keep it firmly in his possession. “I had one client whose husband slept with his cell phone locked, under his pillow,” recalls Gomez. This paranoia is a sure sign that he’s hiding something on his phone.

5. Car changes. If there’s unaccounted mileage, receipts or belongings in a man’s car, he could be cheating and keeping the evidence out of the house. Another red flag: a passenger seat moved to a different position.

Red Flags that SHE is Cheating

Because the ways that men and women cheat differ, guys often miss some of the signs of infidelity in their wives, fiances and girlfriends. Gomez says that when it comes to women, the ways they cover up cheating include:

1. Extra time with “girlfriends.” While men try to cover their tracks, women worry more about the back story of their cheating ways. A common sign that Gomez sees of cheating in women is when they suddenly spend a lot of extra time with girlfriends — or at least say that they are. “I’ve even seen people stopping at a girlfriend’s house at the end of a date and then posting pics of them together on Facebook,” says Gomez. “Maybe they see the friend for 10 minutes only, but they work hard to make it look like they’ve been with that person the whole time.”

2. Increase in exercise. While men tend to focus on overall appearance, women are pretty gym-centric when it comes to cheating. It could be a meet-up place for a new love interest or could simply reflect the woman’s desire to look her best for her new suitor.

3. New email accounts. Women work harder than men to cover their cheating tracks. Instead of simply hiding or deleting emails, women are more likely to create an entirely new account for email communications with a significant other and then not share that address with anyone else. “Women tend to spend more time planning out cheating, and aren’t as likely to encounter one-night stands,” says Gomez.

4. Girls nights out. Of course not every woman that goes out on the town with her girlfriends is prowling for men, but if these outings happen often — and suddenly increase — cheating could be the reason.

If you suspect your partner of cheating, Gomez says it’s best to collect the proof before any confrontation. “Without evidence, you can’t prove it. And you may cause him or her to be even more cautious about their cheating,” he warns. “Once the person knows you’re onto him or her, that makes it harder for you, and investigators like me, to find the proof.”

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Read the original article on Huffington Post.

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By: Allie


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Peppard: Adultery eradicated by the show Cheaters?

By: Alan Peppard
11:20 am on June 26, 2013

Clark Gable III Cheaters HostWith the certitude of a North Korean dictator, Dallasite Bobby Goldstein, creator of the hidden-camera show Cheaters, declares infidelity eradicated.

“Most adultery and infidelity have stopped in the Metroplex,” he says. “Nobody has cheated in Highland Park in four years, now.”

Well…slow down. He is joking.

The end of adultery would mean the end of Bobby Goldstein’s status as a 1 percenter. The former Dallas attorney has made a tidy bundle with his syndicated gotcha show that spies on husbands and wives engaged in extra-marital intrigue.

Fair warning: Season 14 is in production in Dallas right now.

“Most all of the footage is shot here,” says Goldstein.

With a Barnum-like gift for promotion, Goldstein brought in a new host last year named Clark Gable III, grandson of the Gone With the Wind star.

And the young Gable is returning for Season 14.

“Clark is still our starting quarterback,” says Goldstein. “He’s the Roger Staubach of our team.”

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Image: The Dallas Morning News